It is unfortunate that I cannot always properly put into words, (or even coherent thought within my own head), the understandings I sometimes have about things. The subtleties, conflicts, complexities, grey areas, moral ambiguities, apparent hypocrisies, etc. If I simply describe it this way, it makes it sound like rationalization of disorder or emotional impulsiveness, but this is not the case. There is a much deeper and overall intelligence at work in humans, which does not always present itself fully to a person's conscious awareness, yet nevertheless can be sensed and understood in situations which are far too complex or elusive to properly or readily explain. This kind of intelligence goes beyond simple formal, up-front, immediate logical arguments, and might be known as "intuition". It also incorporates the weighing and assessing of human emotions at work in situations, which are of course beyond the scope of pure logic but nevertheless work in their own reasoned framework.
People like to shut each other down with simple arguments of logic, pointing out of hypocrisies, superficial inaccuracies, and generally assessing only the most superficial layer of communication. At face value. An ability to process communication on a deeper level is needed, however. For the speaker, this means listening to the nagging, subtle sense inside yourself of something amiss, or wrong (or right?) you have for a situation, even if on the surface you cannot make an immediate argument and are made to feel absurd for even trying. Remember that all feelings or intuitions come from somewhere that can be reasoned out in some way, so it is at least worth considering them. For the listener, this means being sensitive to the speaker's inner state. To closely listen to the feelings and motivations behind someone's words, even if they cannot properly verbally express them. Or even if their words are laced with apparent hypocrisies or inaccuracies. Or even if the have an undeveloped understanding of themselves, and thus come out with all sorts of defensive/offensive/diverting/projecting/repressing/etc mechanisms in their expression. To not damn them simply for not saying the right thing, the correct thing, the politically correct thing, but to honestly formulate one's own direct understanding of that person, as deeply as possible, and draw honest conclusions.
I'm not talking about being passive, or not judging anyone.. quite the opposite in many cases. Rather, I am talking about, simply, a deeper and more complete attempt at understanding.
People do not want to do this, however, they just want to deal on the most superficial level of interaction, and things are only considered valid if you effectively 'deal' on this level, in simple logical verbal expressions that make a very superficial level of sense. And then manipulation of this surface level follows, to produce any cruelty that can be effectively, socially gotten away with...
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